Using Positive Discipline at Home​


ISI has a number of Positive Discipline books available to parents. Titles include Positive Discipline for Teenagers, Positive Discipline for Working Parents, and Positive Discipline for Single Parents. We encourage parents to take advantage of this resource. If you would like to read them, please ask your child' s homeroom teacher where these books are.

10 Guidelines to Facilitate Positive Disipline at Home
  1. Make suggestions or directions in a positive rather than a negative form.

  2. Give the child a choice only when you intend to leave the choice up to him/her.

  3. Use your voice as a teaching tool. Use words and a tone of voice which will help the child feel confident and reassured.

  4. Avoid trying to change behavior by methods which may lead to loss of self-respect, such as shaming or labeling behavior as "naughty" or "selfish."

  5. Avoid motivating a child by making comparisons between one child and another, or by encouraging competition.

  6. Make your suggestions effective by reinforcing them when necessary.

  7. Forestalling is the most effective way of handling problems. Learn to foresee and prevent rather than mop up after the difficulty.

  8. When limits are necessary, they should be clearly defined and consistently maintained.

  9. Be alert to the total situation. Use the most strategic position for supervising.

  10. See yourself in the child!

Positive Discipline 
Gems of Knowledge
  • What we do is never as important as how we do it.

  • Be kind and firm.

  • Don't lecture.

  • Be specific and direct.

  • Maintain the message of love.

  • Disappointment is a naturally occurring part of life, and it's OK

  • Be respectful.

  • Use fewer words when you discipline.

  • Give children experiences that help them to gain confidence and become capable.

  • Follow through consistently.

  • Practice using the position of respect.

  • If you say it, mean it. If you meant it, follow through!

  • Focus on solutions, not blame.

  • Invest meaningful time for training and modeling

  • Silence is a powerful tool.

  • When in doubt, take time out.